Love is a beautiful feeling. You feel empowered knowing that you are loved. However, loving a person struggling with an anxiety disorder could be challenging. Anxiety disorders are one of the most prevalent mental health problems in the United States, affecting nearly 40 million adults a year.
Anxiety affects almost all areas of life: work, health, relationships, etc. To build a solid foundation, it is important to understand how anxiety disorders affect one of the partners and how they can be coped with in a way that only strengthens one person. relationship.
To achieve this, it is essential to remember some things that can help build a loving and respectful relationship. Some of these things are detailed here:
- A person struggling with anxiety thinks they may die: During a panic attack, one may begin to throb, have a racing heartbeat, and may also sweat profusely. You may want to vomit or even pass out. These feelings are real and not exaggerated.
- Need to be patient with the affected person.: A person struggling with anxiety disorder already has a lot to do in his life. Therefore, it is the duty of the other partner to be patient, compassionate and kind. Help him with his daily chores and encourage him to do it one day at a time.
- They don’t want to be defined just by their anxiety.: There is much more to a person than just their anxiety. However, people tend to be surprised by mental illness. Therefore, they do not realize that the person suffering from anxiety is like any other human being with all the complexities. Typecasting someone can be demotivating and can jeopardize a relationship.
- Anxiety can be tiring: Anxiety can be exhausting. People with anxiety are hyperventilating and always on the alert. This hyperventilation can be exhausting as the body is in fight or flight mode. The situations that people without anxiety can easily go through become tiring for the affected person.
- Anxiety can be overwhelming: Anxiety can easily overwhelm a person. Any source of light, noise or any sight can be unsettling and overwhelming for a person who suffers from it. Any change in a routine can be disconcerting. Therefore, it is important to understand and empathize with them, rather than criticizing them for something they have no control over.
- They don’t like being asked ‘are you okay?’ Every time: It is useless to ask an anxious person if they are doing well because they are not, especially when anxiety hits them with full force. The question can hurt you. Rather, supportive questions such as “Can I be of any help to you?”, “I am here for you, you know”, etc. can be asked. They are more reassuring and convincing than can be used to appease someone. .
- They appreciate the support – Sometimes, to the other person, it may appear that an anxiety patient is so full of himself and ignores the one who cares. It is important to understand that he / she is not ignoring, but dealing with his / her own set of challenges most of the time.
The road to recovery
Sometimes, despite support, people with anxiety find their lives spiral downward with each passing day. Trying self-help techniques provides a short-term resource. It is important to seek professional help, which may include medications and behavioral therapies such as cognitive behavioral therapy to relieve symptoms.
Written by Barbara Odozi